Thursday, 31 January 2013
'Ten Mindful Minutes' by Goldie Hawn
I did a double-take too when I saw the name 'Goldie Hawn'. You mean 'Private Benjamin' Goldie Hawn, I thought?! She is the author of this really wonderful and inspiring book, 'Ten Mindful Minutes'. It goes in to great detail about how to live a more mindful life with your children and how to help them develop certain skills that will help them deal with stress and ultimately make them happier. The opening paragraph grabbed me from the start as it resounded with me so strongly;
"From the day my first child was born, I knew that I could not fail at one thing in my life - being a good mother. My most challenging and important role would be to help shape those little beings of pure potential."
There's lots to reflect on and lots of little practical snippets that I like to collect from non-fiction books like these, like a magpie collecting treasures. Ideas like getting your children to describe what the food they're eating tastes like over dinner as a way of encouraging them to be mindful of what it is they're actually eating (good for their literacy too!) Or, asking them to write a small list or discuss with you what it is that makes them happy. One I particularly like is 'The Paper Chain of Kindness', I ask my daughters have they done anything kind that day? Or I decide that they have just done something kind and I write it on a slip of paper to make a paper chain out of. It's a small thing, we probably won't do it forever, but it's a pleasurable exercise for now. This is the magic of kindness isn't it? My daughters smile and feel good about themselves when it has been acknowledged that they have done a kind thing (I know I always acknowledge when they do unkind things, so this is really just redressing that imbalance) An added bonus is that it also reminds me, have I done anything kind today? I'll see what I can do before bedtime.